Emergency Operators, Psychics, And Human Connection

0:00 Good afternoon, good early evening. Good three six am? You wake up and is it a siren outside your window or something howling? If it's a siren, is the world ending? If it's a howling, is something being decimated outside of your bedroom window? No? Just me. We are Anxiety Atics Bedtime Stories. I'm Joe and I'm Morgan, and welcome to our weekly BS where we talk about the most important things going on in the world that you absolutely cannot live without knowing our take. On so so true. Joe, how's your fourth It was, I mean, I have kids, so it was super fun. Oh, it was one of the best, most memorable nights in my life.

0:42 Just super relaxing. I felt like I could. I also felt really grounded and celebrating how wonderful this country is and how much it takes care of people. And I felt. Elated and optimistic, and I felt I just felt so good about the future and the world and no anxiety. None. But did you barbecue? No? Oh, that's the only thing I look forward to. Oh No, I feel like barbecue. No. We went to a parade and in the Midwest, and this is not the Midwest, this is the West. But I never knew this was the thing growing up in Massachusetts. But my cousin don was here and she was like, no, We're going to Iowa and they do the same thing. So they have these parades, big parades, floats, like people get super into it, and then they have barrels and buckets of I mean, like a gross ton of candy and they just chuck it at the kids.

1:39 What are you talking about. You don't know about this. In Massachusetts we go every. Year, and I don't remember having candy thrown at me. Yes, they used to do it in Florence, but all they do it every year in Chesterfield. But Chesterfield is also a little like rural Midwest kind of feel. I don't remember having candid. I have no memory of like standing out there with a bag and collecting candy. Yes, and it used to be Tutsi rolls and then it graduated to like the flavor Tutsi roles. But especially in Florence, they would do it every year. Maybe we never went. I just have no memory. I remember coming out here and being like, oh, they throw candy at the kids. Cool, that's really funny. Yeah, you'll have to take that up with your mother.

2:24 Yeah, I feel like we have so many other issues we might have to get to you first. But if we get to the point in our relationship where we're discussing my lack of TUTSI rolls being checked at my forehead. I feel like we'll be in a really good place and I'm looking forward to that. Oh my goodness, that is really really funny. But yes, we do the parades here too, although I don't ever remember them being in Northampton. They were always in Florence and then in Chesterfield. We would go, but anyways, we didn't go this year, so I shouldn't be talking about that. But I did have a barbecue. Cheeseburgers and hot dogs are my biggest craving when I live outside of the US, and so I had a few of those. In case you were wondering, I was, did you get any notifications?

3:05 I didn't get noticed, Neman, I didn't get notificated miss and miss Joe, Miss Joe, Miss Joe. So true, I didn't get any notifications. So I went into the internet and I was like, what are these other Joe Newman's up to? And I found an obituary, which always sucks because it's like it's hard enough dealing with dead people you do know, and then yeah, dead people you don't know to it and again just feeling. Really great about the world over here. But I have a little brain connection to make for you. So this woman is Linda Joe Newman. She was born in nineteen fifty six and she just passed away after our battle of cancer. So our condolences go out to our family. But she had a really interesting life and one of the things she did was work as a nine to one one dispatcher. And Morgan and I say this all the time, but one of the reasons that we do what we do is we like to have have an antide to true crime because Morgan and I both get marks.

4:05 How deep do we get into this? Like how many? How many episodes? Will will you binge? You if you can and you're like in it, if I can. If I'm like doing stuff, I would say at least three a day. But if it's like the weekend and I have to clean or I'm on my bike or I'm doing something, I mean, it could go. Yeah, I'm even embarrassed to say it could go a lot of true crime episodes. And what kind of headspace. So it's so entertaining. Maybe hopefully it's a listening some kind of brain waves and we're getting a little bit smarter, and we're learning something and we're you know, something positive is happening while we're you know, listening to these horrific stories, but you're not in the best headspace afterward, right, Yeah.

4:47 And I think that there are some podcasts that do a better job of that than others. And I mean it in the negative way. It's important when you listen to these things, and I totally agree with this, is to understand that the stories are not for entertainment. Of course, podcasts turn them into entertainment. But these are cold cases or murders. Or you know whatever, it could be kidnappings that are real people involved. Right, They humanize it. They humanize it with backstory and interviews. So I an entire occupation of people on this planet that I don't think I ever gave a ton of thought about. Thought too. Before I started listening to true crime was nine to one one dispatchers. And how many of these nine to one one calls? Now that we listen to a lot of true crime, have you heard like one hundreds?

5:42 Yeah? So this woman, this Linda Joe Neuman was a nine to one to one dispatcher, and I some of them Locke, who knows what it's like answering people's worst moment of their entire life, calls all day, and you also have to remember that people are calling because they're like, there's a tiger in my living room. It's bearing its teeth at me, it's a friend. Oh wait, no, or like, oh wait. I took too many gummies, and then I'm one dispatcher is like there is no tiger. Go take a cold shower, Like you're dealing with the pendulum of like the absolute worst moment of somebody's life and somebody who is imagining a tiger because I think that, I think you do get a lot of both. I don't know what the percentage is, no.

6:31 But some of some of it's bullshit, Like I didn't know that the memes. The memes pop up all the time, especially now that we've legal so many places of people just like freaking out and then it's not a thing. But I do like to think that if I were a nine one one dispatcher, and again I'm saying this because I didn't have to talk somebody out of an imaginary tiger. I understand that. I would be like, first of all, I wouldn't tell anyone to calm down. I know you hate that. You hate that in real life too, take a deep breath, calm down. Well, when in the history of the universe is somebody freaking out and you go calm down and they go, oh my god. That's right, thank you, Oh that's better, thank you. I agree.

7:13 And I actually just got really good advice two days ago from my cousin because we were at a rope's course and there was like a moment of stress and my cousin, Melissa, who also happens to be a doctor, but not in this she goes, sometimes you have to say look at the tree. What color is the tree? And that can get somebody to calm down more than saying just take a deep breath. Yeah, And so I will work out that. Okay, I understand what you're saying. However, if you're on the. Phone with somebody, you don't know them, right, you have no idea who they are, and they're holding you. And I'm not talking about the tiger, but it could be the tiger I'm talking about in a real emergency scenario when somebody's having a clear panic attack, yeah, in shock.

7:59 Yeah, you know that you're. The only line that can get them. Help, right if somebody's like so, you got to. Snap somebody out of it somehow, And sometimes that takes a little bit of it can come off and I do this all the time when I listen to true crime, it can come off as disconnected or uncaring, when maybe that's what you need. You can't always have empathy. You can have it afterwards, but sometimes you have to come off is cold and hard to get somebody to give you the proper information to help them. Yeah, I totally agree, but I do think that the way to do that, And again I have had zero training as a nine on one operator.

8:39 I've had less than zero. Training as a crisis management person. I went to acting school. So you can just turn this podcast off right now if you're looking for anything meaningful. But my unsolicited and published opinion published this will be published, is that like then you should give somebody like, Okay, close the door, start chest compressions, get a glass, like, give them something to do. I just think that this whole calm down. Every time I hear it, I'm like, what the fuck like when has you don't even well, just when has that ever helped somebody? It's not a helpful phrase. In fact, it's like a if I if somebody who's bleeding out at my feet and the person was like, calm down, I'd be like I'd hang up on them, and then I'd have to call back and be like I just got one and I need another one. I need another one.

9:29 But like i'd get, I'd get I think I'd get really reactive because you can't hate them down. Well you can't. It's just not a it's not helpful. It's like it doesn't It maybe makes the person who's feeling better say it, but like I don't think it's helpful to the person who's freaking out. Yeah, but I also think that you have certain phrases. I'll give you a few that I know, a few where it's like, let me give you forty five what's the plan? Oh that drives me nuts? Calm down? What are we up to? What are we up to? And what's the plan? Is also the same. Yeah, so you have certain things or take a deep breath, relax for a minute.

10:14 These are all things I say to Joe. So I know that, well, not the what's our plan, because I know she hates something. But my point is is the like if somebody tells me if I'm like freaking out when somebody's like, calm down, I don't get triggered by that. Like I would be like, okay, like I need but I understand you do. And so I think we need to add this into the nine to one one dispatch tras. Some people are triggered by a directive that they have no. Control over, that they have no control over. So yes, uh, and we could do that. But yeah, it's really interesting and I think I read somewhere. They do go through a lot of training, not necessarily what a social worker would go through, but very similar to that to know the exact questions to ask, and sometimes the questions sound dumb, but it's just to keep their mind off of what's going on, you know, like what color is your hat? Well, maybe what your house is important, but do you have trees in front of your house or whatever? Sometimes they already know where the house is, but they're just trying to keep them on the phone and keep them calm.

11:12 I don't I don't know if i'd be very I mean, I'm sure those people are. It's probably the most stressful job ever, Like you're only meeting people on like the worst day of their lives. Yeah, and they're probably not very nice to you. So do you want to hear? My mind's on the other end of the spectrum. But still people who are probably trained or have an innate way of speaking to people, Otherwise you wouldn't be calling them either. So actually, Joe found this for me, but I don't know if you read it, but it's a Morgan psychic and I have to tell you I have a huge I want to go to a psychic or a tear card reader so badly.

11:57 I'm it gives me so much anxiety because I want to know you know how they say with the lines wait. Wait, why Yeah, but why do you want to do it if it gives you anxiety? I totally believe in it, and so I'm so intrigued to do it. But I'm so nervous they're going to look at me like this and be like, you're going to die at you know, forty four years old or something awful. There's going to be like a big accident in your family and somebody very close to you is going to die a slow, painful depth. I don't think that they would have so many good reviews if they told people stuff like that. Well that's what everyone keeps telling me, is that they don't do that. But anyway, my point is is it intrigues me because it's something that I deeply believe in.

12:42 I don't believe everybody has the power. I think there are a lot of people who fake it, but I think the true mediums or psychics or teart card readers or people with that kind of natural it's not a talent, what is it? Superpower? I do believe, but I'm scared to see what they would say to me, Well, we should find. A really good one and do a zoom. Well I shouldn't be on it because I think that that would be distracting to the person if they're trying to talk to, Like, I don't know your old dog or something, But can I So I have a friend who, first of all, I feel like this. I feel like every time you talk about psychics or you talk about alia, I don't know any kind of like other worldly woo woo experiences, you have to say, this person who I'm talking about doesn't believe in any of that stuff. And she has a master's degree, and she's a critical thinker, very critical thinker, very very smart woman. And I don't know why you always have to put that disclaimer in, but I feel like I do.

13:48 And she uses this. Psychic but I don't even think this woman calls herself a psychic. She's like a reader or something. And I am going to spread such an insane conspiracy theory right now, but it's so entertaining, and because I feel like the world is crushing down on our souls with a weight previously. Not known to mankind. Just bring that out there for anybody who's looking for any more anxiety. That's what we hear for. We are anxiety addicts, not anxiety helpers. I am going to add to a admittedly insane conspiracy.

14:29 Theory from the psychic. I'm excited. What is? Are you ready? It's so good because it's so super ready to the breaking news thing. Are you ready? I'm going to tell you ready five minutes? And first of all, have we even already talked about this? I mean, my heart breaks for everybody affected by the LA fires. But this psychic believes that the LA fires were started by people trying to cover up for the Diddy trial. Have we already we. Did talk about this? Yes, yes, we've already talked about this. And I said, this is a few people's conspiracy theories and it's not just the Diddy trial. It goes all the way back to like also Epstein and all this stuff. Yeah, because it was a yeah, mean industry. Could you imagine if you were like, look, the only way we're going to fix this thing is if we burn down Los Angeles and here's how we're going to do it.

15:23 Yeah. No, it's I've I've heard that conspiracy theory before. Wait, that's this person that you're very smart, very levelheaded friend goes to believes in this concerrac conspiracy theory. I think she came up with it. I think she's the one who like saw it. Oh my god, Okay, we have to look her up. You would think that all these people could just buy a shredding machine or dig a hole somewhere. Oh my goodness, you guys, thank you for listening to us. We are slowly losing our minds and chose. To do it publicly. You can get this brilliant, brilliant BS conversation everywhere you get your podcasts every wed day of the week, Morgan Fridays, Friday, every Friday, and then this summer we have our favorite reruns that come out every single Wednesday. Please follow us on social media, give us all the stars, even just like a little review that says not shitty, like, we'll take it.

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